Week 4 - Sadness, Grief, and Letting Go
‘Do you want to be right or do you want to be in connection’? To forgive, surrender, let go, connect, deeply listen and heal is the information and energy of your conscious sadness. Being with another without story is allowing your conscious sadness to flow and hold space. This week is about unfolding your sadness.
Below is this week’s content for you to practise over the next 7 days, until we meet online on Saturday to practise
10 - minute Context Setting - start here
2-3 times per week practise the ‘I feel sad dojo’.
45-minute Movement Recording - Letting go
I recommend you move 2-3 times per week,Practise :
Take the words coming from the ‘I feel sad dojo’. Let those turn into a letting go or forgiving poem,
3x per day
Your schedule for week one:
Monday: Context setting
Tuesday: I feel sad dojo context
Wednesday : Movement session ‘Letting go’
Thursday: I feel sad dojo
Friday: Movement session + another practise from below
Context for this week
Context for ‘I feel sad dojo’
‘I feel sad dojo’ - held space for you to practice
45-minute Movement Recording - Letting go…..
This recording is not background music, this session is carefully crafted for you to feel and empower you, if you use your power to choose by bringing your full attention.
Declare a physical space where you won’t be interrupted and can move freely.
Declare a sacred space and commit fully to the session.
Use a great sound system or high-quality headphones for the best experience.
Other practises for this week
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Conscious Sadness: "I feel sad about this... because..." This practice encourages your heart to speak ongoingly. Say this sentence at least 15-20 times a day for three days. If people try to fix you, clarify that you're just letting your heart speak and there's nothing to fix. You can even suggest they simply say "thank you".
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Sadness resides in your heart and body, not your head. Twice a week for three weeks, do handwriting in your Beep! Book, letting sadness flow onto the page.
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For one week, spend 15-20 minutes each day practicing being brokenhearted. Do this sometimes alone, and sometimes with someone who can hold space for you. Each time, find a different doorway into your deep, archetypal sadness and go deeper into it.
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Reserve 45 minutes for yourself in a private space. You might tend to avoid sadness, but you won't drown; instead, you might deepen your connection to yourself and others. Have tissues, maybe a blanket, and your Beep! Book nearby. You could also play music that touches your heart. Just welcome your heart back and let the sadness lead the journey without trying to understand or make something of it. Simply go on the journey for 30 minutes, then slowly come to a stop and say, "Hello heart of sadness, what do...".
* Touch Base with Anonymous Alcoholics. AA meetings offer a space in modern society where people are encouraged to be with their brokenness, pain, and grief as a first step to healing. Attend 2-3 meetings a week for 2-3 weeks. You don't need to be addicted to attend open meetings. Bring tissues and let each person sharing be a pathway into your own sadness. If you're invited to speak, just share what you're sad about. Your openness to vulnerability is enough. -
This is an expansive integration process. Feeling the pain of what could have been possible changes you and creates new sensitivity. You might apologize to someone or write them a letter, but don't use remorse as a reason to beat yourself up.
When embarking on a journey into sadness, you might feel an ache in your heart. This is the beginning of feeling it, so don't worry. If your mind tries to figure it out, return to your body and the pureness of feeling. You might experience images, a sensation of missing someone, a deeper ache, or even numbness. If you feel numb, this can guide you into sadness about not feeling sadness.