Day 2 - Centering
Context for Day 2
Anger is not good or bad. Anger is a force of nature. Like fire, water, wind and earth, it exists whether we approve of it or not. As long as you are alive inside a human body you will have access to anger. The question is never whether you have anger.
The question is:
Will you use it consciously or unconsciously?
Conscious anger creates. Unconscious anger destroys.
Why do we start with centering?
Centering Is Choosing Yourself
Being centred means:
“I am here.”
“I can feel.”
“I can choose.”
“I can take responsibility for my life.”
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Why Would You Not Want To Be Centred?
Sometimes giving your attention away feels safer.As children, many of us learned to look outside ourselves for approval, safety, and direction.
We learned:
“Someone else knows better.”
“I need to be liked.”
“I need to adapt.”
“I don’t want to be responsible.”Staying in this place can feel comfortable because we do not have to fully choose, take a stand, or face the responsibility of creating our own life.
But the cost is that we lose connection with ourselves.
We give away our power.
Why Would You Want To Be Centred?
Being centred, owning your attention means, coming home to yourself.
When you are centred, you can:
feel what is true for you
make clear choices
say yes and no
create boundaries
use your voice
trust yourself
Being centred is where your adulthood begins.
It is the place where you stop living only for other people’s expectations and start living from your own inner knowing.
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You have two centres:
Your physical centre
This is located about three fingers below your navel, in the centre of your body.Your energetic centre
This is where your attention and energy moves towards. Your energetic centre can move away from you without you noticing. Its being constantly pulled on with advertisement and things to get and do…For example, when you are constantly focused on what others think, what they need, or whether they approve of you. When this happens, you give your attention away.
And your attention is one of your greatest resources.
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No one can take your centre from you.You can only give it away. Centering is the practice of bringing your attention back to yourself.
One part of your attention notices where your energy is. The other part guides it back into your body.
From your centre, you can access your clarity, your voice, and your authority. You no longer need to shape yourself around others.
You can meet life as yourself.
From your centre, you can create healthier relationships, clearer boundaries, and a life that actually belongs to you.
For reclaiming your attention, your anger and un-numbing yourself, we want to reconnect you with your curiosity. The part of you that is in awe with life, open and interested.
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In this 21 day we cultivate curiosity.
Why?
Being able to ask questions is a core skill for navigating life because it opens up more options in each moment.
Curiosity is the willingness to explore, discover, and learn without needing to already know the answer.It is the part of you that asks:
“What is happening here?”
“What can I learn from this?”
“What else is possible?”Curiosity opens space.
Instead of judging yourself, others, or your experiences as good or bad, right or wrong, curiosity allows you to become interested in what is actually happening.
Curiosity is different from needing to fix, control, or understand everything.
It is a way of meeting life with openness. When you are curious, you can stay connected to yourself even when things feel uncomfortable.
You can explore your feelings instead of pushing them away.
You can listen to your anger instead of judging it.
You can meet yourself with compassion instead of criticism.
Curiosity creates movement.
It allows you to grow, change, and discover new possibilities.
A curious person does not ask:
“Why am I like this?”
A curious person asks:
“What is this showing me?”
Curiosity is the doorway to awareness.
Which one ?? Team what do you think? Which one shall we use?
Curiosity is a big step of Un-numbing yourself, being curious of what is really going on for you!
Numbness is the biggest disease we have in the world right now. Its what creates war eventually, because its disconnects us from our feelings our humanness. As bigger the numbness in you and the strategies you have put into place, as harder it is to be alive and ask, choose and declare what you want.
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The biggest reason many women struggle to feel their anger is because we have learned to numb it. Anger is often not missing. It is hidden underneath layers of protection.
At some point in our lives, numbness may have helped us survive.
When feelings were too much, when expressing ourselves was unsafe, or when our anger was not welcomed, disconnecting from ourselves became a way to cope.
Numbness was a protection.
But what once protected us can eventually has disconnect you from our own life force.
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When we cannot consciously feel our anger, it does not disappear. It goes somewhere. Suppressed anger often moves into what we call the underworld.
It can show up as:
resentment towards yourself
resentment towards your body
self-criticism
self-doubt
overthinking
internal stories that repeat again and again
exhaustion
pressure
people pleasing
disconnection from yourself
The energy that could be used for creating, choosing, and expressing becomes trapped in managing, controlling, and suppressing yourself.
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Many of us have built a high numbness bar. This means we have learned to disconnect from our feelings until they become too big to ignore.
When anger has been stored inside for a long time, when it finally comes out, it often arrives with a high level of intensity.
It burns.
It overwhelms.
It can feel destructive.
Then we often respond by increasing our numbness even more.
We disconnect further.
We try not to feel.
This creates a cycle:
Suppress → Build pressure → Explode or implode → Numb again.
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Everyone has strategies for avoiding uncomfortable feelings.
Some numbing strategies you might be using are:
staying busy
overworking
excessive exercise
scrolling social media
eating
drinking coffee
drinking alcohol
cleaning
overthinking
staying confused
explaining feelings away
turning anger inward
beating yourself up
gaming
using sex as distraction
always helping others
smiling when you are not actually okay
These strategies are not the problem.
The question is:
What feeling am I avoiding? What is actually going on for you right now?
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The purpose of this journey is not to make you more angry. It is to help you lower your numbness bar.
To learn to feel anger at lower levels of intensity.
To notice the early signals.
Before resentment builds.
Before explosion.
Before collapse.
When you learn to feel your anger, you discover what you really care about.
You begin to hear:
“Yes.”
“No.”
“More.”
“Enough.”
“This.”
“Not that.”
Your anger becomes information.
Your anger becomes a guide.
Practice of the Day
Practice 1 - Centering yourself
3 x today center yourself - and from today onwards every day…
Begin noticing where you give your centre away.Either use the written up practise and make yourself a recording or
use the guided centering practise with sound 8 min long
Practice 2 - Begin the process of un-numbing yourself
Writing down all your strategies:
How do you numb yourself? What are your main strategies?
What is the price you pay for your numbing?Here are some samples: staying busy, overworking, excessive exercise, scrolling social media, over eating, drinking coffee, drinking alcohol, drugs, cleaning, overthinking
Be radically honest with yourself, be curious, what are your ways of numbing? Once you know you have more choice, autopilot turned of.
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Intention of this practice:
To gather your attention, ground your bodies, and establish clear energetic boundaries, so you can meet life from your centre.Being centred is the felt sense of being here, now, and with yourself.
It is the foundation for presence, clarity, creativity, and conscious relating.From your centre comes:
Your authority and clarity to say yes, no, or stop
Your real voice, ideas, and dreams
Your capacity to choose, ask, and declare
Your ability to observe, sense, and question
Your power to make true offers and connect authentically
The Practice (5 minutes)
Read the following aloud, or speak them in your own words:
Slow down. Take a breath.
Connect with the bones in your body. Sit in the seat of your bones
Pause.Gather your attention from wherever, or whenever, it is. From the past the future, other people. From interactions you had today, from plans you are making..
Bring it into your physical centre, three fingers below your belly button.Now use your intention, your power of choosing to hold your attention here. Let it settle.
Click your fingers as you declare an energetic grounding cord from your centre, about as thick as your arm, extending deep into the earth.
(A declaration is not a visualization it is a decision from within, deciding this is so, a visualization is only in your head!!)Feel your connection with the earth. This connection is your birthright, most of us are not aware of it. Begin building connection with the earth, what is your relationship with her?
Pause.
Take a deep breath.
Now gently expand your awareness to the space around you, your space, around your skin, containing only your own energy and information.
Click your fingers again as you declare a clear energetic bubble around you.
A eggshell shaped membrane that you are responsible for to keep clear.Raise your awareness and hold your attention inside this bubble.
You are now:
Centred
Grounded
In your own space
When to Use This Practice
Anytime you aren’t centred : )
Before difficult conversations
Before facilitating or holding space
When overwhelmed, scattered, or reactive
As a daily grounding daily practice
Centering Practise guided and with sound 8 min long
What you explored today;
Centering, Curiosity, Numbness
What is coming tomorrow;
An ‘Embodied Freedom’ movement session exploring your capacity for presence. You will need a space where you can move and dance freely and uninterrupted, as well as a great sound system or headphones.