Day 5 - Four Feelings
Context for Day 5
The Four Flavours of Love, Pain & your Radiance
It's all the same life force.
We have feelings for a reason.
They are our first language, yet most of us have forgotten how to listen.
Long before we could speak, we communicated through our feelings. As newborn babies, this was the language between us and our parents.
When a baby is angry, their cry has a particular quality. They are communicating, "Something isn't working."
When they are scared, their body and voice change. They are saying, "I need safety."
When they are sad, they long for connection and comfort.
When they are joyful, they relax, play, explore, and communicate, "Yes, this works. More of this."
Watch a young child and you'll notice they move through all four feelings quickly and naturally. They don't get stuck. They express, they feel, and then they move on.
Many adults call this a tantrum.
Next time you're around children, become curious. Notice which feelings they are allowed to express, which feelings are welcomed, and which ones are shut down. This is where we begin learning what is acceptable and what isn't.
Very few of us had parents who knew how to fully hold space for feelings. They could only meet us with the emotional capacity they had themselves.
So, like them, we learned to disconnect and created emotions instead of feeling our feelings fully.
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Most of us grew up with the same unspoken message …Don't feel too much, don’t be so emotional!!
We weren't taught this in a classroom. We learned it through our families, school, friendships, work, social media, and the culture around us.
We witnessed that anger was too much. Sadness was weakness. Fear meant something was wrong with us. Even joy had limits. Be too loud, too playful, or too excited, and someone would tell you to calm down or grow up.
Slowly, we learned to hide parts of ourselves just to belong. No one taught us what our feelings were actually for. No one gave us a map.
This course is an invitation to remember. To reconnect with the four flavours of love, pain, and radiance.
And, in particular, to begin rewriting the story you've been carrying about anger as a first feeling to create a safe space for yourself.
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Every feeling carries both energy and information. When we allow ourselves to consciously feel them, they become powerful allies.
Anger
Anger gives you the energy to act.
It helps you create boundaries, make clear distinctions, make decisions, say yes and no, ask for what you want, stop what isn't working, take responsibility, and create change.Sadness
Sadness helps you to let go.
It allows you to grieve, heal, connect, receive support, soften, appreciate what has been, and open your heart with compassion.Fear
Fear keeps you awake.
It sharpens your awareness, fuels creativity, helps you prepare, take conscious risks, ask courageous questions, step into the unknown, and stay present.Joy
Joy brings life.
It inspires, motivates, connects people, restores energy, keeps you centred, fuels your vision, and reminds you to celebrate what is already working.
Every feeling belongs.
Every feeling has wisdom.
When we learn to welcome them instead of resisting them, they become guides rather than problems. They become a compass.This course focuses on one of these four feelings: anger.
Because when anger has space and you practise to consciously express it, it becomes one of the greatest forces for creating change in your life.
Practice of the Day
Journal about how you relate to your emotional body - to all your feelings.
My relationship with my emotional body is….
Begin by taking a moment to quietly check in with yourself. Remembering un-numbing yourself is step 1, then centering, then curiosity.
Complete each sentence with this prompt in form of writing - taking 3 minutes for each prompt:
I feel angry because….
I feel scared because ….
I feel sad because ….
I feel glad because …
What we explored today;
Where we were taught our stories about feelings, what each feeling is for and how you relate to your four feelings.
What is coming tomorrow;
Exploring the Five Bodies - Physical, Mental, Emotional, Energetic & Archetypal.